Posts Tagged ‘marriage’

by Marcello (our guest guy writer)

Q: If a couple is married three years and is going to get a divorce, who keeps the ring?
- Caroline, Burbank, CA

Dear Caroline:
While I haven’t checked with a divorce attorney or a priest on this – as far as I’m concerned, that ring belongs to the woman.

A wedding ring is a symbol of a loving bond that is meant to be unbroken and everlasting. When the man gives it, it is more than a simple gift; that ring is his promise. While we all know that sometimes love doesn’t last forever, the promise still stands…and he shouldn’t take it back.

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Alison: I agree, you keep the ring. Returning the ring should only come into question if you break off the engagement before you get married.

Q. I am getting married in six months and I have picked out a nice dress that my bridesmaids will be able to get plenty of wear out of. The problem is, one of my girls likes it so much she wants to go ahead and wear it to an event next month. I will not be able to attend, but she, her husband, and my fiance will be going. Is it tacky for me to ask her not to wear the dress until after she has worn it in my wedding? I picked this dress specifically because I thought it was classy and could be worn again, but not before the wedding! Am I being ridiculous?
-To Wait or Not To Wait

Alison: Call your girlfriend and request that she hold off on wearing the dress until your wedding day. Not only does it seem to pull away some of the initial glory from your special day, but what if the unforeseen mishap occurs like spilled wine, food stains or a ripped seam? Tell her that, while you understand the expense involved in buying the dress and your purpose was to make sure that the dress has an afterlife, you’d like it to occur after the wedding and to please respect your wishes.