Wound Up with Work
By Marcello (our guest guy writer)
Q: My guy gets so reserved and shut down when he’s stressed about work-what’s up? How much does a guy’s work life effect his dating/love/sex life?
- Tammi, Brooklyn, NY
Dear Tammi: For a lot of guys, one’s identity is tied up with what you do for a living. And some of us tend to take it to the extreme. Have you seen Glengarry Glen Ross? There’s a reason it features an all male cast. The workplace is where men are judged most harshly. So a bad week at work is not just a bad week - it could signal the beginnings of a crisis of confidence.
To start, it might help if you simply acknowledge that you’re aware of his stress - and that it’s work-related. At least then he’ll know that you know he’s not clamming up because of you. But if his funk lasts for an excessive period of time, or gets worse, it may help to go a step further and suggest he seek some help. In this case, he’s bringing way too much of his work home with him - and now you have a right to get involved to find a solution.
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March 3rd, 2011 by Ali
