Can’t Say Goodbye to Mr. No-Damn-Good
by Marcello (our guest guy writer)
Q: My boyfriend and I had a huge fight last night. It was our 4 month anniversary, and he was saying how he was so happy to be with me and even though we fight, he wasn’t going anywhere. Then after dinner he got angry at me. He wasn’t sure if he wanted to be with me anymore, and after I left I called him on the phone, and he kept calling me a retard. It sounds like he doesn’t respect me at all, but I’m so attached to him, and I don’t know why. I probably should break up with him, but I just can’t seem to do it. I don’t understand why I like him so much.
- Anonymous, CA
Dear Anonymous:
I don’t understand why you like him so much, either. Perhaps it’s the charge you get from making up after all those fights you seem to have? Maybe you like hearing him promise that he’s “not going anywhere.” It sounds as though much of your time together has been spent in breakup mode. Isn’t four months supposed to be a honeymoon period?
What’s most disturbing is his ugly, dismissive attitude toward you. Who calls his girlfriend a ‘retard’? A creep, that’s who. Not only is that an offensive remark, it demonstrates a profound unwillingness on his part to take you, and your relationship seriously.
Let’s face it, when this guy tells you he’s here to stay, it’s only to keep you quiet. He’s trying to break up with you, but you won’t let him. So now it’s your choice to make – and the right time to make it. Dump the chump.
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February 9th, 2011 by Ali
